Dear Fanny,
I’m in love with two people and don’t know who to choose… the first guy shares all my interests and he’s super sweet. The second fills me with a burning passion that makes me feel just so alive. But I don’t want to lead either of them on. Help please!!!
Dear Torn Between Two,
Ah, the classic dilemma: one gives you cozy sweaters and shared Spotify playlists, the other gives you heart-flipping, soul-on-fire chaos. Honestly? This is the emotional equivalent of the old Leadmill Fridays: messy, thrilling, and probably going to leave someone crying in a corner.
Here’s how to survive without creating a full-blown rom-com disaster:
Check your own heart first. Do you want comfort or fireworks? Sweetness or chaos? Both are tempting, but you need to know what you actually want before telling anyone.
Take your time. Sleep on it. Go to a Foundry gig. Drink a blue pint. Observe how each makes you feel when you’re not in a flustered, heart-eyes state.
Honesty is your weapon. Don’t ghost. Don’t string anyone along. Even small truths (“I’m sorting out my feelings”) are better than letting either of them imagine a happily-ever-after that doesn’t exist yet.
Trust your gut (and maybe a notebook). Writing down what each person makes you feel can help cut through the dramatic fireworks in your head — and gives you a future story to laugh about.
Remember: uni romance is intense but temporary. Second-year feelings can feel apocalyptic, but this is all part of the adventure. No choice is the end of the world, and neither of them is permanently written into your life story yet.
So just think, be honest, and maybe grab a chocolate bar for comfort while your brain works it out. One day you’ll laugh about how dramatic it all felt — maybe even in the SU shop grabbing a meal deal.
Yours in heart-flipping chaos,
Fanny x
